Lifestyle,  Mindset,  Self Development

What is NLP? And Why does it matter?

NLP best known as Neuro-Linguistic Programming is the idea that through the usage of language patterns or metaphors your brain or neuroplasticity can learn to communicate efficiently to create any results you want whether that be in personal growth or professional application. In other words, NLP uses techniques that reach better communication with our 5 senses via language that only our subconscious mind can pick after to essentially change our behaviors. So if you are interested in becoming better at anything you set your mind into, I invite you to apply these 5 fascinating proven techniques.

Neuro– This is the way we experience and represent the world through the usage of our five senses (tasting, seeing, touching, hearing, smelling). 

Linguistic– How we use language is the way we shape and reflect our experiences of the world such as by tone, speed, and pitch. In general, the syntax of our linguistic expressions. 

Programming–Training ourselves to think, speak and act in new and positive ways, to reach our maximum potential  

First, we will start by naming each technique and then providing a scenario of how to apply it.

Dissociation: This is literally what the word states, having the ability to find the experience but this time through a point of observation. So what happens is that you relive the experience but instead of emotionally sinking into it, what happens is that you are reviewing the process of the experience and then adding options to it. For example, let us say you are currently going through an anxiety attack as you are currently waiting in a long line to get to the checkout. What happens next is that you can approach the situation by seeing it through a third-person point of view which means yourself seeing “you” experience the event so that you can have better clarity to offer advice, compassion, and support. During this observation kindly ask yourself if this is as bad as you’re making it look like? Or ask yourself what alternative options do you have? The point is that through practice you’ll be able to feel disengaged from that emotional state. 

Reframe: This technique has the meaning of a metaphor of which is all about having the ability to control what information we allow to process inside our mind and which we leave out to build that experience or frame. But because our five senses (see, hear, smell, think, or feel) like to interpret everything automatically than we must learn to be selective since many times we are bombarded with lots of information. And if we unconsciously allow our senses to do its function than unfortunately, in return, we may end up emotionally adding up to the anxiety, sadness, pain, anger, or discomfort. Take, for example, one day at work your boss decides to give you the most time-consuming project on top of all the other tasks you already have going on. And automatically your first initial feeling is this project is such, “a f**** Burden!” “Why do I always have to be stuck with the longest projects?!” Ect. Well, first you’re seeing the project as something that is stealing your time and perhaps even your energy. So instead of feeling or seeing a new project as an energy sucker try shifting the way you think about the situation such as by reframing the project as an opportunity to show your boss that you’re the perfect candidate for rendering a new role and getting better pay when quarterly evaluations come along. See the project as an opportunity to differentiate yourself from the rest instead of limiting yourself. Stop and notice the situation by taking control of the meaning you’re giving to it. 

Anchoring: This technique is more like a habitual act that helps generate a positive emotional response. Think about it like a bookmark that helps you recreate that emotional state being whether its joy or focus. Of course, there are also negative emotional state beings but I presume that we want to stay away from those. So let us go over examples of where this perhaps might come in handy and that would be scenarios such as before taking an exam, before doing a headstand, during an interview, or whenever you are about to start something new. The point is that anchoring reminds you of how that emotional state being was produced to get the results you want. So with that being said, you are ultimately leaning into a formula that helps guide your mind and body into the process it needs to be. So for example, just last weekend I was attempting to try for the first time a yoga headstand, and emotionally I needed to feel secure. I knew I had to start off by preparing myself mentally. I needed a physical touch that would remind me of what to mentally picture while on the way to a headstand. This is why I made my head touch against the floor without lifting my legs. This simple touch would give me a sense of being grounded and that God’s will would allow me to empower me through the process. So I noticed that every time my flat side of my head would touch the ground immediately my thoughts would go into safe mode permitting me to accomplish my headstand. My anchor was simply the touch of my head towards the floor and that compression would immediately send me thinking into God’s protection which would directly prepare me for a successful headstand. 

Belief Change: This technique is all about understanding that some of the beliefs we have in our minds are all due to habitual thoughts without any real-world evidence supporting them. But there are ways to unlearn habitual thoughts by using sensory input to map out a better representation of ourselves. An example of this could be when I first started writing for my blog. The way I was able to accomplish this was by changing my belief system. And what it took to be able to do this was to formulate images. I used to think that I wasn’t a good writer because my English papers from high school were mostly B’s which made me feel insecure about my writing skills. Years later, I started visualizing a blog, and from there came the idea of writing more content but not just any content. I started to see my blog as a place where individuals would gain useful information and therefore I needed to excel in my writing expectations. So the brake through was picturing a beautifully written piece each time I opened my blog, pushing me to practice every day. Now, I consider myself a somewhat better writer. Even Grammarly thinks so 😉  

Rapport: Building rapport is done through using your emotional intelligence such as by understanding someone else’s feelings and knowing what to say or do while matching that with your body language and having the ability to listen well. You can try doing this by mirroring someone else’s body language but in a more subtle manner. You don’t want to make it look like you are copying their every move. And then again you can also emphasize the words they use or nod when they do so. It’s the combination of all of this that signals the other person that you understand them or they feel like they can trust you. 

Lastly, all of the 5 NLP techniques matter if you want to start experiencing unlimited personal growth. In a way, the power is within you but all we do with NLP techniques is guide you so that you can better interpret your unique set of skills and talents. 

Hi, my name is Melody and I am the face behind the visual muse! I am a health and wellness writer currently based out of Miami Fl. When I am not writing or exercising. I am either collaborating on voice overs projects and love spending time learning different ways to manifest self-improvement.

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