Hello and welcome again to this little corner
of mine called “the visual Muse” that I’d like to share with you all.
If you are interested in learning how to change your old habits for better
habits than today’s blog is dedicated to you.
It is through visual surroundings that we
learn more because we begin mimicking what mom, dad, grandma, and others are
doing around us. Well if that is the case and that is the origin of where our
formal schooling comes from let me begin by opening up about my first 7 years
in a quick rampant manner. (Trust my opening of this it will make sense after I
exemplify my upbringing and then try to analyze my life to teach how old habits
can be extracted while at the same time create new ones that are more
beneficial for you. And all this information is brought to you from my
continuous learning habit. In the end, I will reveal my source but for now,
just trust my process.)
When I was 7 years old, all I remember seeing
from my parents was how exhausted they would come back from work that the only
activity they were willing to do was watch tv. This, of course, became the norm
for me. You can say that from age 7 all the way to 17, watching TV became my
habit. It was school then work on school projects and finally my relaxing time
where I would simply binge on tv without any other productive activity. I was
not pouring any good habits I was simply putting nonsense in my head by
watching lots of tv shows that wouldn’t feed my mind, body or soul.
Moreover, it was not until I moved out of my
parents’ home that I started becoming more aware of what my routine habits were
like. It must have been the distance that produced more self-awareness. I
noticed T.V bored me and in the case of watching attractive shows afterward, I would
feel such a horrible feeling. I disliked feeling unproductive which got me to
start looking into what else was out there to do. Thank goodness for the
internet, I was able to search! Yes, it was a great tool but in doing my search
I got caught up on a new web that spiraled into more unproductiveness because I
came across YouTube channels, shopping online, browsing Facebook and Instagram,
etc. Thus, the ugly feeling remerged I was still unsatisfied with my quest for
what can make me a better version of myself. Digging through this I came across
books. In the past, I had heard that some of the greatest successful
entrepreneurs are readers. Now at first glance, I was hesitant about reading
because my first teachings of reading came from boring textbooks which, I
dreaded more than anything. How can reading be productive? I thought to myself.
If anything, they put me to sleep! I rejected the visual idea of reading books.
But then something changed. I kept getting cues from some of the most
accomplished people out there like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Warren Buffet,
Oprah Winfrey, Elon Musk, Mark Cuban and Phil Knight to name a few. They are
all very productive individuals who read so there must be something about
reading that ignites the individual to become better. Which brought me to 1.)
How can I break away from watching TV? and 2.) How can I create Reading a part
of my Identity?
What Jay and I decided to do was to have a
bedroom without a TV. And our living room with TV was only for our guests but
we would not turn on the tv because we subconsciously picked up that TV was
unproductive. We highlighted how the TV was keeping us away from accomplishing
better things. Instead of watching the news we reframed our mindsets by
focusing on writing our agenda early morning while listening to music or
positive affirmations. And whenever we needed a distraction away from our
desks, we would turn up the music and start cooking our lunch. We also cut off
our hundreds of channels to make it difficult to access any interruption from
work. It is in this manner that we pushed out our bad habit of TV.
Now, of course, I had some free time after
work but during my free time, I vowed to create something better. I wanted my
free time to also be identified with better habits and one was definitely to
initiate reading. My reading journey began by picking up a few books and
setting them up by my nightstand and some by my coffee table in the living
room. This way I would get visual cues to pick up a nice cup of hot matcha and
read a page or 2. I presumed that reading felt eternal, so I began with 5 pages
max of reading a day and I pushed it to be at least 3 days consistent. At
first, glancing over Instagram was more fun than picking up a book and reading
which is why I introduced the idea of pairing my book to either a yummy small
dessert or a hot matcha latte. This way my chain reaction became
This habit is something I now practice daily,
which is how I was able to get this information to your hands. You see the way I
broke away from a bad habit and created a new good habit was all a matter of a
learning process. My source of information derives from a current book that I
am reading called, “Atomic Habits”, now you might have heard of it or
maybe not but here is where I learned about breaking a bad habit and creating a
Brake Bad Habit:
Make it Invisible: Habit of watching T.V initiated since I was 7 so I moved out at 17 from home. Removed T.V from the bedroom. (Living room T.V is only for guests).
Make it Unattractive: “Frame mindset …TV keeps you away from production. You won’t make money.”
Make it Difficult: Cut all the good channels
Make it Unsatisfying: “Icky feeling after watching too much T.V”
Create a Good Habit:
Make it obvious: I will read books at my house after working hours. I will place books in my living room and on top of my nightstand.
Make it attractive: I want to drink Matcha lattes, so I’ll pair this action with what I need to do (read more).
Make it Easy: Read-only 5 pages and increase accordingly.
Make it Satisfying: Enjoy learning new information.
Now, reading can be a productive habit but only if you
practice what you believe is of good learning. Sometimes we might know
something is good for us but won’t take action at all which leads to no change.
However, if you read and practice what you learn there is a change that occurs.
You don’t want to just Read you want to be practicing what you take away from
your readings. Thus, my blog is my way of showing you all that I am practicing
my new habit which is writing. If I can publicly allow others to judge my
writing than I am taking action. Learning the process of a new habit is one
thing but consistently practicing the new habit is mastering the habit. Let
that sink in your mind for a bit and then come up with your own good habits.
Thank you for reading, until next time! Love Melo!
Hi, my name is Melody and I am the face behind the visual muse! I am a health and wellness writer currently based out of Miami Fl. When I am not writing or exercising. I am either collaborating on voice overs projects and love spending time learning different ways to manifest self-improvement.